At some point all of us experience disappointment. It is as much a part of life as is breathing. The natural reaction is frustration, depression and occasionally anger. These types of emotions are destructive emotions. We turn on ourselves and believe that because our plan failed we are failures.  We feel a loss of control when we are let down. For example; you’ve entered a public speech contest and you don’t win.  If you conclude that public speaking is not for you and you give up, you will have gained nothing, but you will lose just a little more self-confidence.

The biggest problem occurs after a disappointment when we begin to doubt ourselves and we loose our self-esteem.  We begin to internalize the problem. First we blame others and after a while we blame ourselves.

So your disappointed.  What next?

That is the time to accept that we don’t always get what we want. Life does not promise or guarantee anything. It is important to keep moving forward, continue to work hard and understand that a disappointment is a temporary setback. It helps a great deal to evaluate the reason for your dissatisfaction and honestly accept the possibility that your plans to achieve your wish may have been floored. The number one obstacle is the loss of self-confidence, which creates a desire to quit.

Quitters never win and winners never quit

Remember if you quit you are accepting defeat, which erases all possibility of becoming a winner. Look at the positives and deemphasize the negative. Try again. You will have learned a great lesson